The Power of Vulnerability, Love, and Friendship in Difficult Times
This past week, I experienced a few days where I felt emotionally low—a mixture of sadness, anxiety about upcoming projects, and an unexpected sense of emptiness after executing and experiencing a couple of significant events over the past few months. It was hard to pinpoint the exact cause, but all these emotions combined left me feeling drained and carrying a sharp sense of sadness. In the past, I would have kept these feelings to myself, walking through life with quiet resolve, wearing a mask, and believing that sharing such emotions was a sign of weakness or something to be embarrassed about. But thankfully, things have changed.
I chose to be vulnerable and share my feelings with my wife. Her support was immediate and unwavering, reminding me that love has the power to hold space for our lowest moments. Interestingly, I realized how, in the past, I often romanticized the idea that I had to face emotional struggles alone. But by opening up to her, I shattered that myth. I also shared my struggles with my best friend; his abundant source of empathy, love, and perspective helped me see things differently. Honestly, just talking about it with him immediately made me feel lighter and less alone. Later in the week, I had an unplanned conversation with another friend, and in that safe space, I felt comfortable enough to share a bit more about my emotional state. As we talked, we discussed the importance of gratitude, and she reminded me of a phrase that became a turning point in my mindset: "I get to."
Those three simple words shifted my focus from anxiety and sadness to gratitude. Instead of dwelling on what was weighing me down, I began to notice the blessings right in front of me—big and small. Interestingly, this was the same advice my wife and best friend had offered earlier in the week, and this unexpected third encounter felt like a confirmation that I was on the right path. After all, I am a fortunate man who has received so many blessings in life so far!
Through this experience, I was reminded of a few powerful lessons:
The Power of Love: When you are loved unconditionally, like I am, by those closest to me, you don't have to carry your burdens alone. Their support reminded me that being vulnerable is not a weakness—it's a gift that strengthens relationships and allows us to walk through this beautiful journey together.
The Power of Friendship: In the corporate world, we rarely talk about the value of friendship. But when you have friends who make you feel safe and come alongside you in life's journey, their presence can help you navigate even the toughest moments.
The Power of Gratitude: Shifting my perspective to "I get to" made me realize how blessed I am. It's easy to lose sight of this when you're overwhelmed, but focusing on what we "get to" do shifts our mindset and highlights the abundance in our lives;
I get to wake up each day with the most incredible woman by my side.
I get to raise two wonderful daughters.
I get to have a best friend who walks this journey with me.
I get to be part of an impactful purpose-driven organization.
I get to have a group of friends who enrich my life.
At the heart of all this is authenticity—removing the mask and allowing yourself to be real, even when it's uncomfortable. It's not easy, but vulnerability opens the door for love, friendship, and gratitude to do their healing work. And for that, I am incredibly grateful.
JC
Husband | Father | Founder at myTOD